It is said that grieving takes ten times more energy to get through a day.  There is no spare energy for well meaning friends and relatives who attempt to put the grieving parent on a grief time schedule with definitive directions on how to mourn.  There is great need, however, for those willing to come alongside the bereaved and go the extra mile.  The parent desperately needs a loving and compassionate community of people to walk continually with them from this point forward.